Infertility and Emotions

Share the Emotion of Infertility

Infertility and emotions – fertility issues arouse the emotions in both male and female, and need to be carefully considered as part of the overall infertility piece.

Men will experience many ups and downs trying to fulfil the dream of having a baby as much as women do. No two couples react the same way, and no two men will react identically either.

share emotionsWords used to describe the emotional journey include: guilt, frustration, impatience, desperation, longing, anxiousness, embarrassment, failure, disappointment, anger, unfairness, heartache, grief, hope, anticipation, encouragement and excitement. All of these emotions can be felt over a short period of time, or indeed last for years.

The first ‘disappointment’ is the realisation that after months of trying for a baby you and/or your partner may have fertility issues. Many couples find it hard to digest the news and the relationship may become strained.

Next you may find yourself baring your soul to the doctors and consultants while they investigate what may be the cause of the infertility. This can be extremely imposing mentally and physically for both partners. Suddenly every minute detail of your medical and sexual history is scrutinised, leaving no stone unturned!

Physically you will be prodded and poked and any feeling of embarrassment soon dissipates after the third or fourth time. You will emerge from fertility testing feeling relieved, anxious yet excited as the cause of infertility may be found so you can progress with treatment.

Starting a treatment brings a wave of optimism, hope and anticipation that you will have a baby. As the journey continues this turns into fear; fear that it may not work and if it doesn’t what will you do next? What else can you try?

Then possibly the ultimate emotion, a sense of failure. Men and women were meant to procreate, but why not us? What have we done to deserve this? Why is it so easy for some people? The questions buzz round your head incessantly, driving you mad! Suddenly it seems that there are happy families everywhere. At this time it is important to have the right emotional support to prevent you sliding into a depression.

So what can you do to cope?

Your relationship It is important that you embark on this journey of having a baby together with a solid relationship. Infertility is such a personal issue that most couples tend not to share the news with anyone else initially. In some respects this is a good approach as it helps the couple come to terms with the issues themselves before being questioned by family and friends. It is important to be open with each other about how you feel and not harbour your innermost thoughts.

And keep yourself grounded by reminding yourself that you are a couple who fell in love years ago and are still in love. You can get through this together by talking about it and remembering how much fun you had before the baby pressures arrived.

Revisit those feelings, take time to pamper each other, go out for meals and try to forget about the stress of having a baby for a while. Your relationship will invariably become stronger and your world will not solely revolve around having a baby.

If you do find that you are arguing a lot, it may be time to share the news with family and friends so you can get the additional support you need. There is no point going around in circles, blaming each other and avoiding the issue. Confide in someone you can trust, someone else who you can vent your anger to.

Your partner is probably angry as well and when you come together, the fireworks will not help either of you to move on.  So above all share what you are feeling and thinking, and seek support from family and friends too if this is something you both agree on.


What Are Green Coffee Beans

What Are Green Coffee Beans

While traditional black coffee is made from roasted coffee beans, coffee can also be made using green coffee beans, so what are these beans and how are they different?

greencoffeebeansGreen coffee bean extract, produced from the green beans of the Arabica plant, is a relatively new ingredient to weight loss products that has been getting strong attention; even being featured on the Dr. Oz program. This attention is not unfounded, green coffee bean extract has a number of health benefits, in particular as a weight loss aid.

The main components of green coffee responsible for these benefits appear to be caffeine and chlorogenic acid, a type of antioxidant, although some effects are influenced by factors other than these compounds.

Unlike most coffee beverages, green coffee bean extract is low in caffeine and is not a stimulant.

It has become one of the world’s most popular weight loss supplements.

Green coffee bean contains polyphenols, including chlorogenic acids, which, like grape seed extract and green tea, have antioxidants that help the body neutralize harmful free radicals

Research has also shown that the chlorogenic acid in green coffee bean has an antihypertensive effect on rats and humans that promotes normal blood pressure.

Chlorogenic acids are also killed off when coffee beans are roasted and their benefits are not available in coffee drinks.

Chlorogenic acids support the weight loss benefits of green coffee bean in a few different ways: First, they promote a balanced blood sugar by inhibiting the release of glucose within the body. Secondly, the acids boost the metabolic output of the liver, which burns more fat.

This dual mechanism works to support lean body mass by hindering the absorption of fat and weight gain.


Ectopic Pregnancy Explained

Ectopic Pregnancy Explained

An ectopic pregnancy explained – is one that occurs outside the endometrial cavity of the uterus. Most commonly this is in the fallopian tube, but occasionally an embryo can implant on an ovary or elsewhere in the abdominal cavity.

ectopic diagramEctopic pregnancies are not sustainable and will need removing as a matter of urgency, as they present a considerable risk to the woman’s health.
Attempts to relocate ectopic pregnancies by surgical removal and replacement into the uterus have been unsuccessful.

Unfortunately the incidence of ectopic pregnancies seem to be rising among  infertile women, particularly those with tubal damage.


The diagnosis is often difficult to make, as signs and symptoms of ectopic pregnancy can closely resemble other gynaecological problems. Typically the woman experiences intermittent lower abdominal pain which may be associated with abnormal vaginal bleeding.

Only 50% of those affected will have missed a period. Sometimes faintness or actual collapse due to internal bleeding from a ruptured ectopic may be the first sign of a problem. There may be a past history of tubal damage or tubal surgery.

Women who have used an intrauterine contraceptive device or who have a uterine abnormality have an increased incidence of enduring ectopic pregnancy. Ectopics rarely occur after in vitro fertilisation and embryo transfer.


On examination the woman is often acutely tender on one side of the pelvis and upsettingly a pregnancy test is usually positive. Vaginal ultrasound scanning is probably the best way of confirming  the diagnosis
as it can identify an empty uterus and often pick up a swelling in the fallopian tube.

These findings can be confirmed at the time of laparoscopy which is done as an emergency procedure.


Traditionally an ectopic pregnancy has been dealt with by surgical removal of the affected fallopian tube. This may be done at the time of laparotomy or laparoscopy (an abdominal operation).

However, nowadays many hospitals are treating the affected fallopian tube more conservatively. A proportion of ectopic pregnancies will abort into the pelvis or simply reabsorb, given time. However, hospital admission and regular monitoring is mandatory in this situation.

Where surgery is required, it is often possible to conserve the fallopian tube. An alternative approach is to aspirate the ectopic pregnancy or inject embryo toxic substances into it in an attempt to terminate the pregnancy under ultrasound control.

Unfortunately preserving the tube does increase the risk of having another ectopic pregnancy in the future.


Not surprisingly experiencing an ectopic pregnancy can be very distressing. It often represents the loss of a much wanted baby – a fact that medical staff may be slow to appreciate, as dealing with the medical emergency is obviously their priority.

Counselling may help couples come to terms with feelings of sadness, anger and guilt which are common emotions in this situation. It is important to realise that grieving in itself is a vital part of the healing process and a normal reaction to the loss of a pregnancy.

Many women go on to have a normal intrauterine pregnancy following an ectopic experience. However, future pregnancies should then be scanned at six to seven weeks gestation to confirm a normal implantation site.

Unfortunately some women experience infertility after ectopic pregnancy due to underlying tubal damage.


Infertility and Pesticides

Infertility and Pesticides

Recent studies have reported a link between infertility and pesticides; exposure to pesticides and an effect on lower semen quality, whether occupational or environmental.

spermPrevious data on a likely association between pesticide residues in food and subsequent adverse health effects have been limited, and they have not necessarily focused on what the effect on semen quality might be.

A medical team have now analysed data from 155 men who were part of the National Institute of Environmental Health Sciences-funded Environment and Reproductive Health (EARTH) study. As well as validated survey information on the participants’ diets, a total of 338 semen samples were assessed as part of the study.

Using data from the U.S. Department of Agriculture Pesticide Data Program, the researchers categorized the following as fruits and vegetables that contained high amounts of pesticide residues – peppers, spinach, strawberries, apples and pears.

Fruits and vegetables that were considered to have low or moderate amounts of residue include peas, beans, grapefruit and onions.

The authors found that men who ate more than 1.5 servings per day of the fruits and vegetables considered to be high in pesticide residue had 49% lower sperm count and 32% lower percentage of normal sperm than men who ate less than 0.5 servings of these foods each day. Interestingly, men who ate the most amounts of fruits and vegetables with low-to-moderate amounts of pesticide residue had a higher percentage of normal sperm, compared with those who ate less fruits and vegetables with the same levels of residue.

Dr Chavarro says the findings of the study should not discourage men from eating fruits and vegetables. Researchers took into account other factors known to affect sperm quality, such as body mass index (BMI), and whether or not the participants smoked. However, in their conclusion, they write that “our results must be interpreted with caution”, because diet was assessed only once in the study, and so true intake may have been misclassified.

Also, the researchers did not have data available to them on whether the foods eaten by the men were organically or conventionally grown. And this is important because as pesticide exposure was estimated based on what foods the participants had eaten rather than individual measurements, there may have been some misclassification of exposure levels.

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Some initial facts about Infertility:

To be given a diagnosis of infertility can be very unsatisfactory. Many people feel that it is easier to cope with a definite reason for your inability to conceive.

Contrary to public opinion, and despite the ever-growing size of the human population, man is in fact one of the least fertile of all animals.

Studies have shown that the chances of a healthy couple conceiving in any one month, with frequent intercourse, are about 20-25%. World Health Organisation data suggest that 99% of those who are going to conceive without help will have done so within two years of trying.

Yet there remains a group who, although they have no medical problems, are apparently unable to conceive. However, studies have shown that even in this group, over a period of up to seven years, 36% will eventually conceive. And over the same period, in a similar group who cannot conceive again after bearing one or more children, 79% will eventually conceive.

Some infertility just reflects this inefficient human reproduction. One study of unexplained infertility of less than two years duration showed that 50% of these couples would conceive over the next two years, and suggested that the right treatment was to do nothing.

What is unexplained infertility- infertility may be said to be ‘unexplained’ if the woman is ovulating regularly, has open fallopian tubes with no adhesions, fibrous growths or endometriosis and if the man has normal sperm production. Intercourse must take place frequently, at least twice a week, particularly around the time of ovulation, and the couple must have been trying to conceive for the previous two years at least.

Using these criteria, about 10% of all infertile couples have unexplained infertility according to the most often quoted figures. However, this proportion would probably be as low as 3% if thorough laparoscopic and other screenings were carried out. Some studies show unexplained infertility as representing 28% of their patients, so a great deal has to do with how thoroughly diagnostic tests are performed.

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